Imagine yourself scrolling down a long list of profiles. Every profile is potentially a match. Your fingers start to cramp and your eyes begin to glaze, when suddenly, you realize you don’t know what you’re even doing. Patience is a crucial tools to thrive and succeed in love. Do you recognize this? You can find a dating coach online for men.

On-line dating is like blindfolding yourself and trying to find the needle in the haystack. You can’t just swipe left or right; you have to create meaningful connections. An effective coach can help you make a difference, improve your performance and boost your confidence.

Take a look at some strategies coaches frequently recommend.

**Creating Your Profile**

It’s all about first impressions. Your profile is your digital greeting. They suggest you concentrate on the authenticity of your profile rather than trying to be perfect. Sharing a personal story that demonstrates your personality, including passions and quirks.

As an example, rather than saying, “I love to hike,” you could try, “Last August, I hiked Mount Rainier. The wind almost blew me away at the summit!” You can create a picture of the event and make it more vivid.

Photo’s matter more than you might think

It is important that your pictures tell a narrative. Do not take blurry pictures of your group or yourself in the bathroom. Choose high-quality pictures that highlight different aspects of you life: travel adventures or hobbies. Or candid photos with your friends.

The coach could even recommend hiring a professional to do some photography. You may think it’s extreme, but ask yourself: would you put on sweatpants at a work interview?

The Art of Conversation: A Master Class

Now that you have matched up with someone, what do you do? Your first message is crucial. Keep your messages short and simple. Avoid openings that are generic, such as “Hey” or What’s up? Refer to something in their profile.

Imagine that someone has written in their bio about how much they enjoy dogs. It’s possible to say: “I notice you love dogs!” How do you call your dog?” The simple but effective question will start the conversation.

The Balance between Humor and Severity

It’s important to be funny, but not forced. Don’t try to be funny if it is not your nature. You can still be funny if you are genuine.

This client used humor very effectively. When he noticed that her match’s pictures were from many different countries, he replied to the message “Are your secretly Carmen Sandiego?”.

**How to Deal with Rejection**

Even though rejection hurts, remember that it happens to all of us! Brad Pitt (okay not him) probably has been ghosted at least once or twice. It’s important to be resilient. Coaches stress this.

A good tip to keep in mind is that you are closer towards finding someone who can say yes with every “no”.

*Setting realistic expectations**

You may be tempted to fantasize when looking at profiles. However, keep in mind that you should also have realistic expectations. It’s okay that no one is perfect – including yourself!

The best coaches remind their clients often that it takes patience & time to find love. Hollywood films portray instant fireworks and soft violins in the background.

Let’s conclude… no, scratch that. We are skipping the conclusions for today. Now you know how a male online dating coach can convert swipes to dates, and then dates to potential relationships. Wishing you all a happy swiping experience & that Cupids’ arrow will hit the mark very soon!